Since the release of Sheryl Sandberg’s book ‘Lean In’ I have wondered why I should lean in and not lean somewhere or wherever I choose. I have been publicly silent on this subject as I listen to women near and far and read many publications, articles, and the actual ‘Lean In’ book. However, today I choose to weigh in on the matter after reading a wonderful article by Zosia Mamet in the May 2014 issue of Glamour magazine; ‘No, I Won’t Lean In, Thanks’.
I initially shared this article post through LinkedIn in September 2014. With all the talk of women and girls rights and human rights I thought it fitting to weigh in on this matter once again.
I still say Zosia Mamet’s article is a wonderful article. This young lady touched on many of the thoughts I continue to wrestled with. People are still jumping on the bandwagon to lean in, but I’m not sure too many individuals take the time to understand what lean in was really about, and how it aligns with their lifestyle. I have noticed individuals forgoing their own thoughts and dreams to lean in. Others believe they were no longer successful if they do not view themselves in the position to lean in. Why? I’m not sure.
Zosia so eloquently shared the following quote, “I hate that we look at women who choose not to run a country as having given up.” This line in her article gave me a jolt. If I may be so bold and ask, “Do we have a twisted mindset to think someone has given up because we are not doing what someone else think we should be doing?” We all have a purpose right? It is clear that my purpose is different than yours. What’s wrong with that? I was raised to believe that I am uniquely and wonderfully made. And I am. Why can’t we simply have a home office if we choose and work from our home wearing blue jeans, and a t-shirt? Why is it that we appear to be less successful if we were to conduct meetings via Skype or conference calls? I will tell you. If we make the choice to do something different we are viewed as less than or incompetent.
I do not need a boardroom, or a black or blue suit with heels to lean in. I lean somewhere everyday from my home office as I am conducting business and ministry globally. I lean somewhere everyday when I stand up to individuals with another viewpoint that is not considered the norm. I lean somewhere when I take a stand on controversial issues. I also lean somewhere advocating on behalf of others dealing with injustices. Having a ministry and advocacy mindset and encouraging women to move beyond the status quo is to lean somewhere by doing what I feel necessary to help someone propel forward. Am I to think I am not doing well or being successful because of the choices I have made? Absolutely not!
Zosia shared, “We are so obsessed with “making it” these days we’ve lost sight of what it means to be successful on our own terms.” What a summary of what I have been thinking for quite some time. One of my desires is to see women especially low-income women, no income, and/or women who are in a transitional state to be given an opportunity to run a business if that is indeed a desire of their heart. There are many opportunities available, however, the price tag to be equipped is above their individual price point. Therefore, I am re-launching SAVVY: A Transformational Weekend Experience by turning it into a four session coaching experience breaking the mold by building the lives of women ready to move beyond the status quo, and move their dreams of owning a business, establishing a ministry or nonprofit to reality. We are working at the intersection of women in every cultural group, and we desire individuals to work alongside us every step of the way. Now that’s leaning somewhere!
To learn more about SAVVY: A Coaching Experience contact me through my website. www.GailDudley.com
To read Zosia Mamet’s full article click here.
If you have a moment check out my latest post on LinkedIn that ties back to this post. Would love for you to join the conversation and share your thoughts. Here’s the latest LinkedIn article: Is There Depth In the Hype?
Why Can’t We Just Lean Somewhere? (re-post (but updated) of one of my LinkedIn articles dated September 4, 2014)